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Napa Valley Register - Let’s talk about suicide: Napa County Suicide Prevention Council launches awareness campaign

Nine people have died by suicide in Napa County so far this year. Last year, there were 18 deaths by suicide. Between January 2000 and June 2017, 245 people died by suicide, according to county officials.

In 2016, two of those people were only teenagers – one a student at Redwood Middle School, the other attended Vintage High School. Out of their deaths came discussions – discussions about what parents could do, what professionals could, and what the community could do to see the signs and potentially save people, to prevent suicide.

Aldea’s Courage Village was formed, Teens Connect was formed and, finally, toward the end of 2017, the Napa County’s Suicide Prevention Council was formed. These groups, along with others in the county, are working together to spread awareness, to end the stigma around suicide, and prevent more deaths.The council has been meeting since November and has already started launching projects. Their first awareness campaign, which is focused on anti-stigma messaging, was launched Monday...

A Chance of a Brighter Future

—by Shahrukh Chishty

Hearing all the #MeToo testimonies in the media lately has been empowering for many in our society. However, one doesn’t have to travel to Hollywood to uncover stories of sexual abuse. Unfortunately, these stories are being created all around us and never make it to countless ears. These are the untold stories of our most vulnerable children who are our neighbors, the students in our schools, and the little girls and boys living in uncertainty, trauma, and fear each and every day in our communities. These are the stories of our youth in foster care. The following story recounts part of the journey of a young girl placed in one of our foster family homes at Aldea Children and Family Services.

A Chance of a Brighter Future

At around 4:45 one morning, I received a call from one of our staff members, Nadira, who was in a panic as she tried to convince a young lady not to leave the foster home of Ms. Halsey. This child, Solice, was about 14, though she looked much older. She was a child who had been in and out of foster homes all her life. She had experienced physical, emotional, and sexual abuse at a very young age, and because her own home was not safe, she tried to escape and find protection in the arms of a pimp, someone who promised her basic needs such as food, shelter, and clothing but who also subjected her body and soul to countless sexual assaults for countless dark nights.

Solice had been in Ms. Halsey’s home a couple of times before, in between her AWOLs. On one particular occasion, she had come back into the home in fear and pain after a disturbing couple of nights, having been raped several times. At that time, too, the warm though worried faces of Ms. Halsey and Nadira were present for her. Many times before, Solice had been in pain, and many times she was asked if she would like to go to the doctor. Each time she had refused. Luckily this time, it would be different. Nadira explained to Solice that she would take her to a doctor who understood situations such as hers. She explained to Solice that Dr. Shereen had joined the clinic that Aldea was working closely with. Dr. Shereen had been trained by Aldea staff members whom Solice knew and trusted and was very interested in helping young girls and boys such as she. Nadira told her that she would be right there with her at the medical appointment any time Solice wanted. Thankfully, Solice was able to finally seek the medical attention she so needed. Nadira sat by her and comforted her as she tried to answer the questions Dr. Shereen sensitively asked of her. Dr. Shereen is not only a skilled pediatrician but also passionate about helping young children, especially youth in foster care. Dr. Shereen and some of her key staff had attended informational sessions and received training regarding the dynamics and trauma sensitivity in working with families and youth in foster care.

The journey to connecting with Solice wasn’t easy. Her first couple of placements with Ms. Halsey most often ended with a quick meal, a shower, and Solice leaving the home, not returning for days, weeks, and sometimes months. Recently, this pattern was starting to change. Solice had started to build a relationship with people she was familiar with, people who, no matter how much she cursed or ignored them, still managed to show love and affection and care for her. She eventually started staying longer in the home, started to share her stories, her personality, and her thoughts about the future with individuals such as Ms. Halsey and Nadira. For her strength, for making the right choices in taking care of her health, and for choosing not to run, Solice was rewarded with gift cards (something most teenagers would enjoy) for each day she stayed safe in the home. Additionally, just to have some normalcy return to her life, she was taken shopping, out to eat, and to the movies as well as other activities that a child her age should experience without the worry of how many strangers she would have to “service” in order to earn enough for her pimp, who only then would provide her with some food, shelter, or money.

Through their numerous interactions with Solice, Nadira and Ms. Halsey had managed to enter the child’s heart—she trusted them to protect her. That night, she was back with Ms. Halsey, who had accepted her unconditionally, and the dedicated Aldea staff member Nadira, who had spent many hours with her, comforting her as she spoke of her pain, her fears, and her hopes. Unfortunately, that particular night, there was uncertainty. Nadira called me and said a man outside the home was pushing on the gas pedal and asking for Solice to come out. Nadira said that she tried everything she could to convince Solice not to go, but she thought that she had failed, as Solice walked out of the house. That night I could hear the fear, disappointment, and sadness in Nadira’s voice, and I felt that yet another child’s future was lost in the darkness.

A Chance of a Brighter FutureWhy are we so concerned and called to action?

  • According to UNICEF, every 2 minutes, a child is being groomed for sexual exploitation.
  • Every year, at least 100,000 children are subjected to sexual exploitation in the United States.
  • The average age at which a youth is exploited in the United States is 12.
  • It’s a $32 billion-a-year industry.
  • Seventy percent of exploited youth report having experienced physical or sexual abuse in their homes.
  • Youth who experience sexual abuse are 28 times more likely to be exploited.
  • Seventy-eight percent of exploited children had run away four or more times during the past year.

These statistics are numbers, but each number has a life, a generation, and a story attached to it. We have tried to overcome these dreary numbers in some of the following ways:

  • Awareness: Knowing the problem
  • Education: We trained our leadership, our staff and foster families, our foster youth (age appropriately), our service partners, and our community.
  • Fostering Relationships: If a child who ran from a home was placed back into our agency, we tried, whenever possible, to place that child with the same family and with the same worker.
  • Incentives: These children are, after all, just children, and they desire the same things that most children their age would like. We provide rewards (e.g., gift cards, going shop-ping, etc.) for making good choices (e.g., for each day staying and not running away, for getting medical attention, for getting help from an appropriate agency or therapist, etc.). 
  • Advocacy: It is vital to be involved at all levels and to talk about the true needs of this very special group of traumatized and exploited children as well as the foster parents who nurture, protect, and care for them. 

And what of the young lady who had left the foster home? Fortunately, her story didn’t end there. Because of the trust our staff member had built over many interactions, Solice came back within a few minutes of going outside. She came back and told the surprised staff member that she had come back because she knew that she was cared for. She was protected from another night of rape, degradation, injury, or possibly even death.

It is a privilege to be able to serve humankind in such a profound way. Thank you to all who are truly present in the lives of our most vulnerable and hurting young boys and girls. Thank you for having the heart that you do. Thank you for being their hope. Thank you for helping pave the way to a brighter future and for changing the course of generations.
Note: Names have been changed to protect the identity of the individuals.

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Family Focused Treatment AssociationShahrukh Chishty is the Senior Director of Social Services at Aldea Children and Family Services in Napa, California. She is a member of the FFTA Editorial Committee.

 

 

 

CRUISE FOR A CAUSE!

Aldea is partnering with Gary Lieberstein of Travel Addiction Agency offering a 7 Night cruise at a discount to you AND Aldea gets a donation for each stateroom booked! A $250 pp donation will be made to Aldea Children and Family Services. DISCOUNT AVAILABLE UNTIL 5/31/18

ENJOY A 7-NIGHT CRUISE FROM BASEL TO AMSTERDAM  NOVEMBER 12-19, 2018

Enchanting Rhine

Dive deep into the history and wine regions of the Rhine River. Explore charming villages like Riquewihr and Breisach as you sail along towards Strasbourg. Visit the historic university town of Heidelberg and continue to Rüdesheim. Enjoy an evening walk in Koblenz and cruise to Cologne where you’ll admire its imposing cathedral. Conclude your cruise in the vibrant city of Amsterdam. Special tours and tastings at local wineries and private cellars

COMPLIMENTARY WINE CRUISE FEATURES

  • Learn about winemaking in renowned vineyards
  • Onboard wine pairings with award-winning cuisine
  • Janet Myers will lead wine tastings and discussions

FOR MORE INFORMATION, CONTACT Gary Lieberstein | 707-738-6916 gary@traveladdictionagency.com www.traveladdictionagency.com CST#2126419

Holiday Gift Card Round Up!

Every year, hundreds of children in Napa and Solano counties are completely forgotten during the holidays. Toy drives provide the right gifts for kids under 12, but do not always meet the needs of older kids and teens in our community.

You can help make sure that this year ALL children and their families receive what they need by supporting Aldea's Holiday Gift Card Round Up!

What Can I Give?

We are accepting the following gifts:

Monetary Donations

Aldea has been able to support our clients and families through the generous donations of our donors and supporters. Your gift will be applied where it is needed most, whether purchasing a holiday meal for a family or helping a parent buy gifts for children.

$25 Gift Cards for parents to purchase gifts for their children

A great source of pride for many parents is to shop for their children’s holiday gifts. This is not a holiday reality for some families living paycheck to paycheck. Help our parents make this holiday season special with a gift card to a local retailer ($25 increments preferred).

Adopt a Family

If you are interested in adopting a family, we are collecting gift cards totaling $300 that will be given to each family in need. A mix of gift cards to various stores is ideal for covering several family needs.

What Gift Cards Should I Get?

Target and Walmart are great choices. Other suggestions are Cinemark, Copperfields, Safeway, Raley’s, Lucky’s, Trader Joe's, Vallergas.

Where Can I Drop Off my Gift Card?

Bring your contribution to ALDEA (Allen Ewig building) located at 1546 First Street in Napa by Friday Dec 15, 2017You may also make a check payable to Aldea Children & Family Services (memo note "Holiday Gifts Cards") or make a donation online by clicking here.

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Monday 10-16 Update

We have now reopened our offices.

As most are aware, many counties in the North Bay Area have been affected by devastating fires, including Aldea's service areas of Napa and Solano counties. We hope that you and your loved ones are safe and wanted to provide an update on the status of the Aldea "little village" as detailed below:

Currently, Aldea's school-based therapists, alcohol and drug counselors, and therapists from our clinic have been have been redeployed to support mental health needs in our community. It

Thanks to Napa Valley Community Foundation & Napa Valley Community Organizations Active in Disaster (COAD), Aldea is one of the local agencies trained in disaster response, and is coordinating with other agencies and Napa County to help plan crisis counseling, housing, children exposed to trauma assistance, and among other needs. Napa County Mental Health has requested Aldea's support in the shelters through Sunday and we are already supporting our community members in need.

Staff are in contact with their supervisors, and as of now, everyone on the Aldea team is still safe and no one has lost their home. We are grateful for this news and hope that you and your family members are safe as well.

We will be posting regular updates on our website and Facebook page. If you need to contact us, please message us via Facebook, as that is the easiest way that we can respond at this time. We know that our community will come together to support one another during this unprecedented disaster and come back stronger than ever. Thank you for being a part of the Aldea "little village."

Community Resources
Mental Health Services
  • Aldea Behavioral Health Services (starting Monday 10/16): 707-253-0123
  • Napa County Mental Health Crisis Line: 707-253-4711
  • Solano County Mental Health: 707-428-1131
  • Crisis Intervention Community Connection Network: 707-257-9719
  • Mentis Mental Health Clinic/Appointments: 707-255-0966, ext. 132
  • Mentis Older Adult Appointments/Healthy Minds-Healthy Aging: 707-299-1885
Evacuation Centers
Solano County: 
  • Solano Community College (4000 Suisun Valley Rd.) in Fairfield
Napa County: 
  • Napa Valley College (2277 Napa Vallejo Hwy.) and CrossWalk Community Church (2590 1st St.) in Napa
  • Napa County Fair & Fireworks (1435 N Oak St.) in Calistoga 
  • American Canyon High School(3000 Newell Dr.) in American Canyon.
Other Services
  • To receive text updates of your area from Nixle, send a text message with your zip code to 888-777
  • To mark yourself safe or look for loved ones, please register at Safe and Well, here
  • Napa County is providing regular fire and evacuation updates on their Facebook page, here
  • Napa Police Department is providing regular fire and evacuation updates on their Facebook page, here
  • To volunteer, please register with the Center for Volunteer and Nonprofit Leadership (CVNL), here
Local Resources
  • Cope Family Center is open 8:30-5:00 through Friday 10/13 for recharging your technology and yourselves
  • Boys & Girls Clubs of Napa Valley is providing childcare for children 6-18 regardless of membership status at its Napa (1515 Pueblo Ave.) and American Canyon (100 Benton Wy.) locations. Click here for more information.
  • V.O.I.C.E.S./LGBTQ Connection (780 Lincoln St.) and Innovations Community Center (3281 Solano Ave.) in Napa are open Thursday 10/12 from 9:00-3:00 for coffee and community. For more information, click here.
  If you are able, please support our ongoing relief efforts in our community. Click here to make a donation to Aldea.